Life happens to no one nor for one. Everything appearing is wholeness love as infinite possibilities ...
No matter how the separate me attempts to break down and differentiate what is appearing/happening, what is, is simply wholeness love as everything and nothing simultaneously.
The absolute beauty in everything and nothing is that it is unknowable down to the lint in your belly button. One can not become an unknowable being as what is is already unknowable. When the energy of separation ceases persistence it's possible in the untethering of this energy a recognition may arise and it is seen that life is wholeness love as infinite possibilities.
If the separate me goes looking or tries to become un-separate you have gone down the rabbit whole. Separation is an illusion, a dream.